Why is it that every time you decide to lose weight your significant other comes home with pizza, beer, and dessert? If you've gotten to the point where you have DECIDED, that NOW is the time to get your health on track, it's nice to have a little support, right?
Here are the top 5 things that your significant other needs to know about your decision.
1. You are not trying to lose weight to pick up "dudes/chicks" (or maybe you are, and then that's a whole other blog post)! The decision to eat healthier may change the way your body looks, but more importantly, it changes how you feel about yourself. When you feel good about yourself, that will send more positive energy into your relationship.
2. You are not trying to torture them. Let them know that you can acknowledge that even though you have made the decision to choose healthier foods, you can understand if they have not made that decision. Let them know that you respect and support their decision and you would appreciate the same in return. Promise not to judge, compare or push certain foods- you probably didn't appreciate that behavior prior to making your decision, they will not either. Keep your eyes on your own plate, who knows, maybe eventually when you're not looking, they will steal a bite.
3. Food might be love sometimes, but it doesn't have to be. Just because you tell your significant other that you don't want to eat a bowl of ice cream with them, doesn't mean you don't love them. It just means you are living your decision, and at this moment, that ice cream isn't part of your decision at the moment, but they will always be.
4. You love them, but you are doing this for you. It's OK for this decision to be healthier to be all about you. You want to be the best you can be for the people you love. That's not selfish, that is grabbing life, taking control, and choosing to be happy and enjoy yourself. Let your spouse know you want to be the best version of you possible. In the long run, your significant other will benefit because who doesn't love a happy spouse with a new zest for life!
5. It's not all about the scale. Look, I know what the title of my blog is.....if I called it something else, you wouldn't read it. But here is the real truth...being healthy is being accepting of your body for what it can do for you, giving consideration to all foods that are desirable, and prioritizing your food to provide your body with the best possible fuel - because that is what you DESERVE, the best. If you like the scale, so be it, hop on there, there's nothing wrong with it, but making the decision to change your course of life, by choosing higher quality foods, goes far beyond what any scale can measure. Bottomline, share your positive thoughts about your journey rather than complaining about what is not going well (like the numbers on the scale). Are you more likely to jump on board with someone is complaining and feeling tortured, or who is happy and has made peace with food and their body? Remember, what you put out there into the world, even through words, comes back to you.
Some of the greatest results I have seen with my clients are when their significant other or loved ones join them in their journey....
Angela Manderfeld MS, RDN, LD, CDE