Grief: A Deeply Personal Matter

Grief: A Deeply Personal Matter

Grief. We all experience it at some point in our life. It may be the loss of a parent, spouse, child, or friend. It may be the loss of a job or career or losing a home due to natural disaster or financial setback. Grief can appear after a loss of identity or lifestyle. Whatever the cause of grief, the impact is real.

Acknowledging grief is important because we grieve over more than just the passing of a loved one. Society often minimizes the grieving process over lifestyle changes or loss of identity. We are expected to just deal with it and move on but our body and mind do not feel the same way. There are real changes that happen during a grieving process that help us as we move through the situation and into the new life.

Emotional and physical effects can impact us during times of grief. Take time to notice how your body and mind feel during grief.

  • Am I feeling physical tension in any areas?
  • How does my head feel?
  • Do any areas ache or tingle?
  • How is my energy level?
  • What is my mood like?
  • How are my thoughts?
  • How has my sleep been?
  • How is all of this affecting my daily life?

Once you have taken inventory on how you are feeling, take time to think about your well-being. Spend some time focusing on activities you enjoy doing that can help you feel better. 

Some activities that may help boost your mood are:

  • Connect with water. Take a bath, go for a swim, put your hands in a tub of water. Water is an excellent conductor for emotions. Water helps cleanse us physically but also helps emotions move through our body. When we are feeling sad or depressed, often we grab dehydrating foods and drinks. Many people crave soda, coffee, and alcohol to decrease feeling emotions. When we are dehydrated we feel less emotions. Stay hydrated to get back to feeling good faster.
  • Connect with nature. Go for a walk. Sit on your deck. Take your shoes off and put your feet on the earth. "Earthing" helps your body take up free electrons that help neutralize free radicals in the body system. (barefoothealing.com) For added benefit, try to find earth that is wet like damp soil or wet sand. The sun on your head also helps boost mood.
  • Eat healthy foods. When we are feeling down, we tend to reach for processed foods. Eating a variety of whole, fresh foods helps our body repair and heal from grief. Fresh fruits and vegetables are also high in water that will help your body process emotions. Try to find in-season, organic foods for even more healing power!
  • Find enjoyable activities. Meditation, journaling, reading, puzzles, socializing are all activities that can help through tough times. Find something that you enjoy and try to spend a few minutes a day doing it. Every little bit can help. If you struggle to think of something you might enjoy, search on Google or Pinterest for ideas.
  • Ask for help. This may be reaching out to a friend, counselor, energy worker, intuitive, or bodyworker. Energy and bodyworkers can help remove stuck emotions and help you find healthy ways to recover from the loss. We are social creatures that are meant to live in tribal settings. Society today often causes us feel isolated. Being around others who are supportive can help tremendously. There is so much personal power in asking for help!

Just because you are experiencing grief does not mean you have to be depressed. You can be grateful and grieving at the same time. You can experience happiness and miss someone simultaneously. Each season of life has negatives and positives. Search for the postives and give them the attention they deserve because you deserve it!