It's been a while since I sent any emails. Let's just say life has been very busy...
In fact, it has been at times overwhelming, like life has been turned up to a higher speed. Ever feel that way?
I don't do very well when I feel like life is an out of control ride and I can't get off. I don't sleep as well, don't eat as healthy as I like to. I start to feel out of control. An occasional drink can become 3 or 4 times a week and maybe daily. What was that line from that Ozzy Osborne song? "I'm going off the rails on a crazy train."
I know I can't control how life shows up, but I do try to control my response to whatever life is giving (or throwing at) me. I want to stay calm, positive and un-freaky. It's not easy
There are two things I do that are necessary for me to stay sane. One is taking a brisk walk or jog every day if possible around the lake near my house.
The other, more important thing, is getting up on Sunday mornings, preferably before 6, walking down to the local Starbucks, getting coffee for me and the wife, and spending a few hours alone in my home office before the world starts getting all noisy.
You know how when you are in a very high place, you see the world differently? Like in an airplane, or a tall building, you get a different perspective? That Sunday morning time offers me a higher perspective of my life.
It starts when I leave my house and walk out into the cool morning air to head out to get coffee. I ask myself "How's my life? How am I? How are things? What's happening?"
When I get back into my home office, maybe I'll write in a journal, usually stuff that's pissing me off, but also things that seem weird or interesting in my life. I'll pull a book off the book shelf randomly and just open it to see of there is some wisdom I'm meant to have. I'll listen to music.
This is how I create space on a weekly basis to step out of the stream of my life and just check it out from a different perspective. It makes me feel as if I'm enjoying the ride rather than just racing to the grave. Oftentimes, I see things about my life I didn't see before.
I create the space and time to view my life from a higher place, and it's a place of non-judgement, a place of peace and observation, with the intent to be mindful of the experience of life.
I'm sure many of you already do something like this, like sitting on your deck, or meditating or going to church or temple. If you don't, consider giving it a try.
Space and time, these are the things that can get very scarce in our modern lives. Give them to yourself as a gift. Let me know what you think.
p.s. Check out my latest podcast episodes "Just Because Life is Hard Doesn't Mean That You Suck", and "Public Speaking: A Fear Worse Than Death". Click here to listen to my podcast Ted in Your Head.