"We learn our belief systems as very little children, and then we move through life creating experiences to match our beliefs. Look back in your own life and notice how often you have gone through the same experience."
-Louise L. Hay
Limiting beliefs are those little voices and thoughts inside your head that have you believe that you can’t be/do/or say something you desire.
How do you know that there is a limiting belief operating in the recesses of your mind? How do you know that they are limiting or false beliefs and not the truth and where do these beliefs stem from? For most of us, these false beliefs were created in childhood. Maybe we were the sibling of a star athlete and were always thought of us the “clumsy one”. Maybe we were told that we were “big boned” or maybe that we are “bad in math”. Whatever the belief, we somehow took it and made it our truth. Often times we are not even aware that they could be false beliefs at all. A belief is only a thought that was repeated often enough until we mistook it for our truth. Yet, we believe that we are destined to be bad in math, will always be heavy or that we will never excel in or enjoy sports.
A powerful example is one of my own childhood. My mother, often times overwhelmed, anxious and depressed would lash out at me physically. After the spanking was over, she felt bad. In an effort to make herself feel better, she would sulk and pout until I apologized for behaving so badly that she had no choice but to spank me. As a result, I took on very early in my childhood the belief that everything was always my fault. These beliefs would show up in my friendships throughout my life in that I often took blame and apologized for instances that were truly not my fault. This deeply hidden belief came up for healing in a very dramatic and painful way when in my forties I entered a relationship with an emotionally abusive woman. No matter how poorly I was treated, I always looked to myself to be the one at fault. I would spent my entire days wondering what I possibly could have done to provoke a weeklong silent treatment. I would measure and watch every word I said afraid of upsetting her. I would beg and plead for her to show me some affection only to be left guessing what I could have said that warranted being completely shut out. I spent three years walking on eggshells until I found myself completely drained, severely depressed, thirty pounds heavier and unable to make any decisions.
It took almost one year for me to be able to sort out all the ways I lacked boundaries, abandoned myself and most importantly why I was willing to endure the emotional abuse. The belief of “everything is always my fault” was so deeply entrenched in my psyche that I could not remember its origin or that it was even there in the first place. It took work with my coach to uncover the false belief and work on releasing it from my life.
How do you know that you have a hidden belief operating subconsciously in your life?
Do you often feel anxious or depressed?
Do you often struggle with indecision?
Are you quick tempered?
Do you speak about yourself mostly in negative tones?
Do you tend to judge and carry negativity towards others?
If you said yes to any of these questions, chances are there is some belief operating in the background of your psyche that has you limiting yourself in some way.
We truly are meant to live joyful, abundant and unlimited lives. At our core we are expansive and always seeking new adventures, new ways of thinking and new ways of being in this world. We were created to enjoy life, to laugh and experience all of life’s wonders. It is only our limiting beliefs that tell us that it is not possible to live that kind of life. It is only ever a false belief that has us limited in any way. Do you want to lose weight, yet you think that it is impossible for you? Do you want to start your own business, but you are afraid to fail? Do you want to find new love again, but believe that won’t ever happen to you again? Do you struggle with depression and anxiety, and believe that will never change for you?
If there is an area in your life that you are holding yourself back in. If you are ready to feel free and joyful again. If you believe that feeling this way is not possible for you. I encourage you to reach out and schedule your free call.