Every board of directors has one...

Every board of directors has one...
"Dressed in a navy suit, Dr. Blasey Ford maintained her composure throughout the hearing...."Oh yeah, here we go again.Really, New York Times?!?Let's ignore the fact that Dr. Blasey Ford's suit has exactly zero to do with the content of the hearings and less than zero with what the takeaways are. (Unless we're in the fashion industry? Unless we get a description of what the nominee was wearing? Nah, that's even worse.)Let's take a look at "maintained her composure throughout the hearing."Clearly important because we women are a hysterical lot, aren't we?Oh wait, that would be the privileged white male perspective, the one that still runs our world: women who show emotion are hysterical; men who show emotion are weak.When written out like that, it seems ridiculous, doesn't it?Surely we've moved beyond that?And yet it's not surprising—publicly shaming emotions is just the outward version of what we do to ourselves on a regular basis, isn't it?emotion shamingWe feel an emotion rising, and our inclination is to suppress it: I shouldn't feel this way, why do I feel this way, feeling this way is bad, I'm a bad person ... and we're off to the races toward full-blown anxiety about ourselves in the world.If you've ever recognized this tendency in yourself, you know it can be debilitating. As a health coach, I hear a lot about how people are "stuck" and "paralyzed," and this often comes down to how we approach (or don't) our feelings, which feelings are allowed to rule our behavior.You can find out what this all has to do with health coaching on my blog: https://simply-healthcoaching.com/emotion-shaming/Then leave me a comment and let me know, who on your board is causing you trouble?